What Could Possibly Make a Man Jealous of his Friend?

April 12, 2017 Ramya M

Apparently a lot of things. I started thinking about this when my husband one day annoyingly made a statement that women can only be Frenemies and not just Friends. I did some homework to find out key traits that make a frenemy act the way they do. Apparently, it all stems from jealousy and leads to desire. 

 

{Also Read: Who is a Frenemy? Is it Just a Term for Women?}

 

A frenemy, probably, genuinely likes you but is jealous of some qualities or privileges you have that make him want to see you fail. I posted on facebook “What could possibly make a man jealous of his friend?”. My friends, mostly guys, had these in their mind.

 

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“He has a Better Bike or Car”

Yes, you are happy your friend bought a fancy car and you can all go for a drive, but it isn’t yours. Somewhere in the corner of your wicked mind, you wish you could accidently drag a very pointed stone and leave a nice scratch right on those shiny doors.

 

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If diamonds are girl’s best friend then bikes and cars are a man’s soul mate. They will never get bored talking about it. They understand and relate to their mean machine more than their woman. As a child, they will proudly cycle around the neighbourhood and the moment they are in a college, they would need a bike because everyone else seems to have one. The attitude, attire and style that goes along with this priceless metallic friend are…ehm..so much to die for.

 

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Also, do not be surprised to find a man who is saving his first 6 month’s salary to be able to afford the down payment for his first car. Men are possessive about their bikes and cars, but even then, a brand new vehicle in a friend’s garage will turn them green with envy.

 

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“If he is stronger, more powerful and has bigger Biceps”

Is your wardrobe filled with protein supplements? Have you spent hours in front the mirror wondering if that half an hour workout has grown your biceps? Have you never shown so much focus on anything else but to finally be able to lift those weights at the gym?

 

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Men will pay a steep price to be stronger, powerful and have big biceps. Perhaps for them, these three tend to outline the foundation of masculinity. Broad shoulders, readiness to walk around shirtless, always ready to punch someone, physical strength a lot of men visualise themselves to fit into this profile. 

 

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Do men feel they are losing out on the attention and confidence in front of a friend who is more powerful? I know for sure what does bother some of them. A T-shirt that looks hot on your friends chiselled body but fails to create the same impact on your lean body! 

 

“I get jealous of his other friends; definitely, if he grabs all the attention; after getting married, I am jealous of all my bachelor friends”

A friend (male) commented that he would be jealous if his friend was closer to another guy than him. Wasn’t that only a girl thing? Perhaps not.

 

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Another popular reason for jealousy was when a friend always steals the spotlight. A handsome boy who was also a college topper, football team captain, had all the girls around him and often left you standing somewhere far all alone. A scene very familiar from your life perhaps?

 

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Now imagine, a few years later, this friend eventually gets married, goes for shopping with one kid in each hand, a nagging wife following behind, bumps into you while you are still single and roaming around carefree. Wouldn’t that be a great feeling for you! 

 

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“He gets all the latest gadgets!; I am waiting for the day when my paycheck will be bigger than his; How is he so successful in whatever he does!”

A friend of mine was cribbing about her husband’s urge to buy new gadgets. He doesn’t buy them out of need but because some random friend has bought it and everyone seems to love it. Some gadgets are like Little Black Dress. You can’t just have one.

 

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Of course, if a friend can afford to buy the latest iPhone as soon as it is launched, he was either born with a silver spoon or is more successful in life and has more zeros and digits in his CTC- another reason to envy. The worst part is when you have to adjust to his lifestyle but with your own money. He wants to go to to a night club at that 5-star hotel in your city when all you want is to sit at home and gulp down your Old Monk. 

 

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You can be, in a way, thankful to this friend because he will remind you why you should be working hard even if your boss doesn’t deserve you.  

 

“I get jealous of my friends who are gifted with good hair and can grow beard easily; I am the shortest in my friend circle, so yes I am jealous of their height.”

Height is a factor that can make a man feel jealous of a fellow male and even more of a female. Girlfriends can forget their heels if they are dating a short guy. It is also one troubling factor because if there was ever a solution to fix a man’s height, I am sure Tom Cruise would have given it a shot.

 

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Living with my husband made me realise that men can also be really fastidious about their hair and beard. He combs his hair from left to right and right to left but to his annoyance, I find him still looking the same (Same handsome, charming and majestic). Once he even hinted that he wants a beard grooming kit. I initially thought he was joking because where on earth would you find such a product. To my humongous surprise, there are such products in the market and a lot of people buy them!

 

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I think the grief is at its peak when you are half bald and in your 40’s and meet an old friend whose hairline has not moved even an inch behind. Unless that friend of your’s still cannot grow a proper beard, to your rejoice! 

 

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 “My friend has a hot girlfriend; I hate it when my girlfriend finds my friend funnier than me; I could really get jealous of a friend who is married and still gets some space and freedom!”

Is a hot girlfriend of a friend, whom you have to excruciatingly call “Bhabiji”, driving you crazy? Is that friend deriving pleasure out of the situation?

 

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If you have an excellent sense of humour, then I suggest you stop worrying and start talking to her. Most sensible women find good humour attractive and you too can send some waves of insecurity towards your friend by making his hot girlfriend laugh at your jokes.

 

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Remember this episode from Friends- When Monica says Chandler isn’t the funniest guy? 

 

Thankfully, Monica used to give Chandler his space so that he spends quality time with his best friend Joey. A lot of people ask me if it bothers me that my husband goes out playing football thrice a week. In fact, a man once asked me how do I manage and how should he convince his fiance to give him that space. My answer was simple. If she wants her own space, she got to give him his. Before he could finish his grin, I also added: “would you be fine if she is out partying thrice a week while you have to figure out dinner on your own?”.

 

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Someone, a girl for that matter, wrote SIZE as one of the reasons. I am kind of confused if it is the size of the same thing that I am thinking. Do men really compare? I don’t know. You tell me.

 

{Also Read: 6 Traits to Easily Identify a Frenemy}


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